In December 2017, Josephine Karungi, a renowned TV host, invited me to share my story as a domestic violence survivor on her show “Perspectives with Josephine Karungi.” To say I was scared beyond my wits would be an understatement, and yet I still gladly wore my orange dress and boldly roared.
This was the second time I was publicly narrating my story within 14 months. First time was on my blog site, and in the Daily Monitor, a sister company to NVT. Before then, I had only disclosed my ordeal to a few of my closest friends since I was afraid of speaking out.
According to African societal stereotypes, I was a young girl who had no business being in a relationship at my age, and therefore I believed saying anything would do more harm than good, so I chose to drench myself in depression until I pulled myself out of it after a year. According to the World Health Organization, an estimated 150 million girls under the age of 18 suffered some form of sexual violence in 2002 alone.
Keeping silent is what most youths do after they have been violently attacked, harassed or forced to do a sexually related act against their will. The perpetrators will do the same to another person, and the cycle of gender-based violence continues.
Those who speak up risk being doubted, punished or get victim-shamed from society. It is also a known fact that men and boys are also affected by physical assault and rape and in most cases, they keep silent about such incidences because of the social stigma regarding their perceived lack of machismo and other denigrations of their masculinity. I believe men should start supporting each other just like women have chosen to do. Encouraging survivors to speak up, creating awareness, providing support for survivors, and educating them and the public about online and offline gender-based violence (GBV), is what it will take to end this vice.
Technology can be used as an essential tool for combating this depravity, and it is precisely what I am setting out to do. This year, my team and I are launching a community-based organization called Roaring Doves, a digital and offline community where female survivors of GBV can fearlessly R.I.SE together through:
- Roaring (Speaking Up): Survivors will be able to share their stories through blog posts and take part in social media campaigns that will also create awareness, sensitize the public and
- Inspiring: Speaking up will motivate others to speak up or report
- Support each other through peer to peer to peer counseling
- Education: Content will be curated from online discussions will be used to conduct both online and training programs around universities and communities that we live in.